Have you ever used the words always or never when making a commitment to your soul? Have you ever said “I am always going to exercise.” Or maybe, “I will never eat sugar again.” How often are you actually able to successfully fulfill these ultimatum statements? There is a better, easier, more successful way to enact these goals in your life!
Always and Never
Always and never are long times. They are huge commitments to fulfill and easy promises to break. I have seen clients embrace this all or none philosophy and wrestle with guilt, pain, and failure, when they aren’t able to perfectly fulfill their goals. The times in my life that I have tried this method I felt like I failed more that I succeeded, because I could never celebrate success. Even if I had been successful that day in my goal, I could not claim to be an overall success because I had not reached the final destination of never or always. I was constantly thinking about the next day, or week, month, or even year. I felt overwhelmed and was less than excited about the future, eventually I would give up.
Just for Today
There is a simpler solution. A finite way to make easy and obtainable that which may seem daunting and out of reach. Make all your goals “just for today.” Each day I would start my goals with for for today… I found that at the end of almost every day I could celebrate success. And, if I didn’t, that was okay because there was always another chance for success tomorrow. As you begin to live the “just for today” principle, you will begin to notice some big shifts within your soul. You will be more gentle with yourself, notice and celebrate successes, and your soul will thank you for it. Just for today find happiness, success, and peace. You deserve it!
Get something on which you can write. Make a list of the things that you have set goals to achieve in the past, but have not succeeded. These could be big things, such as getting out of debt, or small things, such as eating less sugar. Now, find a way to word that goal that goes with the “just for today” phrase. For example, “Just for today I will spend less than I make.” Or, “just for today I will eat healthy food.”
Make a list of no more than five of these daily goals and make sure to keep them in a place where you can review them daily. Each morning state out loud your “just for today” goals while looking in the mirror. Repeat tomorrow.