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Looking for the Good

“Weeds are flowers too, once you get to know them.” Eeyore (AA. Milne)

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” Viktor Frankl

Our perspective shapes our life. It is all about what we choose to see. Is it a weed or a flower? Is it a trial or a lesson? Is it a hardship or a gift from God? It is my belief that we can grow and learn from everything in life. We can turn stumbling blocks into stepping stones, allowing us to get closer to our divine potential simply by changing our attitude or how we view our situations and opportunities in life. We can learn. We can grow. In order to do so we need to have a great perspective. Think of a trial you may be experiencing right now, keep it in mind as you read the following experience.

A lady in one of my classes shared an interesting experience with me. Her son was diagnosed with cancer in his early 20s. He had just moved to a big city thousands of miles away. She described how she travelled back and forth, watched her husband go into thousands of dollars worth of debt, and how indescribably hard it was as a mother to watch her son suffer. She questioned God in anger one night asking “Why would you do this to my son?” After a year of treatments and surgeries the cancer finally went into remission.

About 10 years later she was talking with her son and mentioned how almost losing him to cancer was one of the worst experiences in her life. Her son replied, “Oh mom, cancer didn’t almost kill me, it saved me.” He then explained how he had gotten in with the wrong crowd, and was in a gang at the time he was diagnosed. He was in way too deep. The only way out of the mess he found himself in with this gang was to be diagnosed with a life threatening illness. He told her he was sure he would be dead by now if he had not gotten cancer. Suddenly, her perspective changed. She said she thanked God every day from then on that her son got cancer.

Perhaps you haven’t had quite as drastic of an experience as the one I just shared, perhaps you have. Either way, here is a simple exercise you can do to begin changing your perspective.

  • Fold a paper in half hot-dog style.
  • On one side write down a list of your trials.
  • On the other side write down the things you have learned or can learn from them.
  • If you are having trouble identifying what you can learn, ask God.
  • After completing the list, take a moment of gratitude for all the opportunities you have been provided, all the gifts God has given you.

We can choose to learn and grow from the trials we experience in life. If we learn to have a greater perspective we can find the gifts hidden in our challenges and continue to progress towards our potential.

Taken from Chapter 8 of Soul Intuition by Allison H Larsen.

Redefine Yourself

There are two ways to go about living and life in general. You can react to whatever is thrown your way, become your challenges, and be defined by your defeats. Or, you can decide who you are and who you want to become and then act like it regardless of the challenges life may present you. Will you let your ailments or trials in life define who you are? Or rather, will you define yourself despite the struggles you may be facing?

When Labels Define Us

Oftentimes when we allow a label to define us, we don’t even realize who we are once that identity is gone. One may even subconsciously cling to an illness or trial because it has become a part of their identity. They are being held hostage by something negative. Something that has become attached to them like a leech, sucking meaning  and purpose out of life. There are a multitude of other labels that we assign ourselves such as being a “bad mom” or a “lazy father”. These titles we give ourselves turn into self-fulfilled prophecies, thus we become the very thing that we think and tell ourselves we are.

When We Remember Who We Are

If you are letting your behaviors, your situations in life, and your reactions to them define you, then you are giving up your power to create the life you want. You will go through life without living up to your full potential. If you choose to remember who you are and act as the divine being that you were created to be, no matter what life throws your way, you will be able to tap into your soul intuition and come out on top knowing you did your best and lived life to the fullest.

Action Steps: The Patterns Walk

Think of a negative label, undesirable emotion, or a behavior you’ve been struggling with recently. Ask yourself the following questions to recognize how you got there. Carry your thought from the previous question to each new one.

What is the environment you’re in before experiencing the undesirable emotion or behavior?

What emotion do you feel?

How do you react to that emotion?

What’s the payoff or defense for this behavior?

When behaving this way how do you label yourself?

How do you feel about your spirit connection to God at this point?

Now walk through using God’s way instead of the world’s way.

Knowing how God feels about you, how would you label yourself?

What’s the payoff from knowing who you are and how God sees you?

How will you behave knowing who you are and how God feels about you?

What emotions do you feel now?

The environment may be the same but you aren’t!

Use this exercise to remember who you are or have the potential to become, act accordingly and you will have the ability to create the life you’re meant to live.

Taken from chapter 10 of Soul Intuition by Allison H Larsen.