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Start 2018 Right with this 3-Day Challenge

Are you looking to start 2018 right? Try this simple 3-day challenge and start improving your year just a day at a time! Begin to change your outlook on life and bring a little more positivity into the new year.

Day One: “Think success and it will happen.” Thomas D. Willhite

Before you get out of bed in the morning, smile and think, “This is the best day of my life!”

Before you do anything else take the time to meditate or pray. Express gratitude for the blessings in your life.

Imagine how you want your day to go. How do you want to feel? Who are you going to help? What do you want to accomplish?

After your meditation or prayer, write down your intention for the day. Pick one specific thing you would like to have happen that day (i.e. today I will not yell at my children).

During the course of the day, reflect on who you want to be and what you want to accomplish. This will be especially hard, but very helpful, when you find yourself in a less than desirable situation that puts you to the test.

Before you go to bed, take time to reflect on your day. This can be done through prayer or meditation.

Day Two: “The unthankful heart discovers no mercies; but let the thankful heart sweep through the day and as the magnet finds the iron, so it will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings!” Henry Ward Beecher

Repeat all the steps for day one and…

Notice all the good things that happen to you throughout the day, however small they may be.

Before bed, record in your journal all of the good things that happened that day.

Day Three: “You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Buddha

Repeat all the steps for days one and two, plus…

Pray to be able to see yourself as God sees you. Then…

Sit in front of a mirror for ten minutes without thinking any critical thoughts or finding any flaws. You may only extend mental compliments and love to yourself. Only positive thoughts are allowed. If you want a real challenge, every time you criticize yourself, start over!

Make a list of all the good things you accomplished during the day.

You can repeat this challenge as often as you’d like. Put your own spin on it and continue to push yourself to your full potential! Make 2018 the best year yet.

 

Finding Gifts in your Faults

Do you ever wonder what your strengths are or question if you even have any? I often work with people that are slow to recognize their God-given gifts and talents. When my clients ask me how they can discover theirs, I give them one powerful piece of advice. If you want to find your strengths, the first place to look is behind your weaknesses. That is often where they are hiding.

The Greatness in your Faults

Looking to your faults and weaknesses to discover your strengths may seem a bit counterintuitive. However, oftentimes we may find our weaknesses are just our strengths turned up too high. Consider the weaknesses you may find in yourself, and think of the positive qualities or motivations that are at the heart of those perceived weaknesses. Don’t let the world define you. Don’t let past experiences and conversations limit you. Look within to find answers. Your strengths are there. They may just be hiding behind negative labels of perceived weaknesses.

What Makes Us Unique

What makes us different, what sets us apart, those things that we may think are broken about ourselves, these are the things that can actually be the greatest gifts we have to offer the world. We can learn how to use them to benefit ourselves and others. Each of us is born with specific gifts and those gifts, in combination with the experiences we have in life, give us an individual skill set we can offer the world. No one else has your combination of talents, personality, and background. There is only one you in the world. What have you been given to offer it? What makes you unique?

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Write down a list of things that you feel are your weaknesses. Across from each, list on potential strength that could be hiding behind it. For example:

Too trusting might be paired with the ability to love and see good. Obsessed could become strong focus. Too emotional might be the ability to connect deeply with people.

Taken Soul Intuition by Allison H Larsen.

How Do I Make Money Doing What I Love?

I am often asked, “How do I make money doing what I love?”

I am in contact with people every day who are like you. They just want to be both successful financially and feel fulfilled in their work. Luckily there is a way to have both and I will show you how.

In order to answer this, I’ll describe the process it requires as well as one major false concept to overcome in that process.

FIRST: Identify what you’re good at

Okay, let’s talk about the process of making money doing what you love.

If you’re going to make money doing what you love you first need to identify what gifts you have, what you’re good at, or can become exceptionally good at. Try eliminating those things you love to do but can not or would be best not to try to monetize; e.g. becoming an opera singer when you’re completely tone deaf.

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Make a list of all the gifts, talents and skills you have. Be sure to be honest with yourself. You may think, “But I already know what I love, and I love playing in my rock band.” That may be the case, but that doesn’t mean you can’t fall in love with doing something else. Don’t get so hung up on it being just one way. Remember, there’s more than one way to skin a cat.

The reason this is important is because, first of all, our talents are ours to help or inspire others, which means you have things within you that are profitable. Secondly, you’ll often love what you’re doing if you are using those gifts to serve others in your work, which means your happiness and monetary success are quite malleable.

SECOND: Find the Value

In order for you to actually make money doing anything, let alone what you love, you have to provide value that other people are willing to pay for. If you want it to be sustainable, you’ll need to ensure enough people are paying you for that value. If only your mom will pay you for it then you aren’t actually providing value worth buying or you at least haven’t made enough people aware of it yet (a.k.a. marketing).

It’s important for you to take the time to figure out what people will pay you for. There are all sorts of jobs that exist which need the talents or skills you have. So do a quick Google Search. Apply for those jobs, or if you already know what you want to do, try and sell it, go out and do it, see where it takes you.

“In order for you to actually make money… you have to provide value that other people are willing to pay for.”

 

-Addressing the Elephant in the Room

elephantLet’s just call out the Elephant in the room. Most people live under this assumption that if you do what you’re most passionate about, you’ll magically make money. What a load of bologna! Things don’t magically happen, unless you’re actively attracting that magic (in other words “luck”) through consistent work.

Here’s the other Elephant in the room.

Many people are fed the idea: ‘Find something you love to do and you’ll never have to work a day in your life.’ Not true! I have done the work, I’m still doing the work, and I know many people far more successful than I, and they too know this is a lie. (No one actually knows where this quote even came from: read here)

Here’s the truth about. The outcome can sometimes be so exhilarating that the work you did feels like nothing (at least for a time). However, in order for you to do what you love it will require you to do things you don’t love, but those things will increase your time and return on doing what you’re most passionate about. More on this below in THIRD.

THIRD: It takes Mettle!

Maybe you’ve already looked into jobs and have tried a million different things, or maybe you’re going to try this out. Eventually you will hit the same wall. The wall of: this sucks, I don’t want to do this.

At some point you’re going to realize something: Making money doing what I love involves doing a lot of things I don’t love. -Congratulations, you’ve stumbled onto another truth. This truth is known and embraced by the successful.

Any time you attempt to do anything there are obstacles to overcome. All work, all jobs will entail obstacles. Many people have small obstacles they are accustomed to dealing with because they are reaching small goals or not striving. Any time you really try to succeed, and reach greater heights like making money doing what you love, those difficulties are going to be much greater.

So how do you deal with any of this? By having mettle. In other words, pushing through this, not giving up, embracing what needs to be done and doing it.

“Making money doing what I love involves doing a lot of things I don’t love.”

It is completely unrealistic to expect that your work, no matter what it is, will be enjoyable and pleasant. Even super successful people who made a living doing what they love didn’t always enjoy it. Walt Disney, for example, was often super stressed out, spending all of his time trying to fix problems. He embraced that in order for him to achieve the outcome he wanted, he would need to push through the trials of finding enough money, overcoming bankruptcy, and fighting fierce competition with much better resources, etc.

And this brings me to the last point I want to emphasize:

FOURTH: OUTCOME vs PROCESS

I don’t want to paint the path to your success with gloom and misery because there’s actually a lot of sunshine. But the main problem most everyone faces when it comes to succeeding is changing their wrong thinking.

When people think about making money doing what they love, they normally begin mixing the OUTCOME with the PROCESS.

For example, imagine a man who wants to be an artist. He knows he can paint and he wants to make money doing that. What does he picture in his mind? He sees himself holding up a magnificent, finished painting before an admirer and then that admirer handing money to him and taking the picture home, leaving him with a smile on his face and a feeling of success. -This is the outcome.

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How did he get there?

What the artist doesn’t see are the countless hours he spent trying to get his layout just right on the canvas, getting the mix of colors just right, correcting mistakes, and even starting over. Then calling vendors and applying for shows to showcase his painting, driving there, setting up, and worrying that maybe his painting isn’t as good as the guy’s next to him. Then going to another show and another without a sale. Watching people walk by, trying to convince them to look at his painting and engage their interest. Late nights, early mornings; low pay, no pay, and dead ends. -This is the process.

He is completely oblivious to the process because all he sees is the outcome. And that’s what most of us do.

Yet, we should focus on the outcome, but we must learn to do so without allowing ourselves to become so disenchanted with the process that we give up on it. Succeeding is allowing our desires for the outcome to be brighter than the shadow of challenges in the process.

 

So, remember to keep your head level, don’t be disillusioned with the work before you. Making money “doing” what you love requires work, hence the word “doing”. If you didn’t have to work for it you would not love it. Change your thinking, identify your skills, and persevere through the process to obtain the outcome.