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November 2017

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Creating Soul Commitments

Have you ever used the words always or never when making a commitment to your soul? Have you ever said “I am always going to exercise.” Or maybe, “I will never eat sugar again.” How often are you actually able to successfully fulfill these ultimatum statements? There is a better, easier, more successful way to enact these goals in your life!

Always and Never

Always and never are long times. They are huge commitments to fulfill and easy promises to break. I have seen clients embrace this all or none philosophy and wrestle with guilt, pain, and failure, when they aren’t able to perfectly fulfill their goals. The times in my life that I have tried this method I felt like I failed more that I succeeded, because I could never celebrate success. Even if I had been successful that day in my goal, I could not claim to be an overall success because I had not reached the final destination of never or always. I was constantly thinking about the next day, or week, month, or even year. I felt overwhelmed and was less than excited about the future, eventually I would give up.

Just for Today

There is a simpler solution. A finite way to make easy and obtainable that which may seem daunting and out of reach. Make all your goals “just for today.” Each day I would start my goals with for for today… I found that at the end of almost every day I could celebrate success. And, if I didn’t, that was okay because there was always another chance for success tomorrow. As you begin to live the “just for today” principle, you will begin to notice some big shifts within your soul. You will be more gentle with yourself, notice and celebrate successes, and your soul will thank you for it. Just for today find happiness, success, and peace. You deserve it!

Action Steps

Get something on which you can write. Make a list of the things that you have set goals to achieve in the past, but have not succeeded. These could be big things, such as getting out of debt, or small things, such as eating less sugar. Now, find a way to word that goal that goes with the “just for today” phrase. For example, “Just for today I will spend less than I make.” Or, “just for today I will eat healthy food.”

Make a list of no more than five of these daily goals and make sure to keep them in a place where you can review them daily. Each morning state out loud your “just for today” goals while looking in the mirror. Repeat tomorrow.

Finding Gifts in your Faults

Do you ever wonder what your strengths are or question if you even have any? I often work with people that are slow to recognize their God-given gifts and talents. When my clients ask me how they can discover theirs, I give them one powerful piece of advice. If you want to find your strengths, the first place to look is behind your weaknesses. That is often where they are hiding.

The Greatness in your Faults

Looking to your faults and weaknesses to discover your strengths may seem a bit counterintuitive. However, oftentimes we may find our weaknesses are just our strengths turned up too high. Consider the weaknesses you may find in yourself, and think of the positive qualities or motivations that are at the heart of those perceived weaknesses. Don’t let the world define you. Don’t let past experiences and conversations limit you. Look within to find answers. Your strengths are there. They may just be hiding behind negative labels of perceived weaknesses.

What Makes Us Unique

What makes us different, what sets us apart, those things that we may think are broken about ourselves, these are the things that can actually be the greatest gifts we have to offer the world. We can learn how to use them to benefit ourselves and others. Each of us is born with specific gifts and those gifts, in combination with the experiences we have in life, give us an individual skill set we can offer the world. No one else has your combination of talents, personality, and background. There is only one you in the world. What have you been given to offer it? What makes you unique?

Take Action

Write down a list of things that you feel are your weaknesses. Across from each, list on potential strength that could be hiding behind it. For example:

Too trusting might be paired with the ability to love and see good. Obsessed could become strong focus. Too emotional might be the ability to connect deeply with people.

Taken Soul Intuition by Allison H Larsen.

Redefine Yourself

There are two ways to go about living and life in general. You can react to whatever is thrown your way, become your challenges, and be defined by your defeats. Or, you can decide who you are and who you want to become and then act like it regardless of the challenges life may present you. Will you let your ailments or trials in life define who you are? Or rather, will you define yourself despite the struggles you may be facing?

When Labels Define Us

Oftentimes when we allow a label to define us, we don’t even realize who we are once that identity is gone. One may even subconsciously cling to an illness or trial because it has become a part of their identity. They are being held hostage by something negative. Something that has become attached to them like a leech, sucking meaning  and purpose out of life. There are a multitude of other labels that we assign ourselves such as being a “bad mom” or a “lazy father”. These titles we give ourselves turn into self-fulfilled prophecies, thus we become the very thing that we think and tell ourselves we are.

When We Remember Who We Are

If you are letting your behaviors, your situations in life, and your reactions to them define you, then you are giving up your power to create the life you want. You will go through life without living up to your full potential. If you choose to remember who you are and act as the divine being that you were created to be, no matter what life throws your way, you will be able to tap into your soul intuition and come out on top knowing you did your best and lived life to the fullest.

Action Steps: The Patterns Walk

Think of a negative label, undesirable emotion, or a behavior you’ve been struggling with recently. Ask yourself the following questions to recognize how you got there. Carry your thought from the previous question to each new one.

What is the environment you’re in before experiencing the undesirable emotion or behavior?

What emotion do you feel?

How do you react to that emotion?

What’s the payoff or defense for this behavior?

When behaving this way how do you label yourself?

How do you feel about your spirit connection to God at this point?

Now walk through using God’s way instead of the world’s way.

Knowing how God feels about you, how would you label yourself?

What’s the payoff from knowing who you are and how God sees you?

How will you behave knowing who you are and how God feels about you?

What emotions do you feel now?

The environment may be the same but you aren’t!

Use this exercise to remember who you are or have the potential to become, act accordingly and you will have the ability to create the life you’re meant to live.

Taken from chapter 10 of Soul Intuition by Allison H Larsen.

Healing Through Service

Giving is one of the most healing practices I have ever experienced, and it is one that I recommend to my clients all the time. I have seen people with intense physical struggles, emotional challenges, and terrible circumstances completely change by learning to focus on what they can give rather than what they don’t have.

The Law of Attraction

If you want to heal the areas of your life in which you are struggling, make a sacrifice to help someone in need. Do not wait until you have more. That is faulty thinking that will stifle your soul. Think about who you want to become and then help as if you are already there. If you want to be a person with financially sound resources that donates to local charities, then start donating to local charities even if you are not financially sound. You will find that other areas of your life will shortly match the frequency and intensity to which you are currently willing to give. Simply put, this is the law of attraction in action. We will become a result of who we are today, of what we are doing.

Helping+Sacrifice=Healing

If your soul is hurting, help someone. If you are sad, help someone. If you want something to be different in your life, then make a difference. We must help to the extent that we want to be healed. If we learn to match or even exceed the amount of pain in our lives, then we will experience true healing. You may be wondering how someone measures how much help they need to give in order to heal. The formula is actually quite simple. Just add in sacrifice. Helping+Sacrifice=Healing.

Take Action

How can you implement this principle into your life? There are many ways but here are a few action steps that you can follow.

Write down a list of items you would like to heal. For example, feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, or worthlessness. Dig deep and come up with emotions that have been causing you real pain.

Decide how you want to help someone. You will know it is a sacrifice when you start to question if you can really afford to give up the money, time, talents, or resources the service requires. Find a sacrifice big enough to equal your pain and you will experience healing for your soul.

If you would like to heal then help. Helping truly is healing for the soul.

Lighthouse or Sponge: The Art of Influencing Rather than Being Influenced

We all find ourselves in negative environments or situations. We can choose to react to situations or to act on them. When we react we give up our ability to live up to our potential and greatness. Choosing to act in these situations empower us to become an influence and help others. You can choose to be influenced or choose to be an influence.

Do you ever feel like you’re a sponge, absorbing all the ick in the world around you, being influenced by the energy in your environment? If a family member or friend is upset, you get upset. There is nothing wrong with feeling sympathy or even empathy. However if we take their feeling upon ourselves, absorb their ick, all we’re doing is magnifying the stench, much like an old sponge. What a lot of power we give up when we let someone’s negative attitude become our bad day.
The design of a lighthouse allows a small light to be magnified and become a bright beacon that shows others the way. Each of us has a light, a purpose, a calling in life if you will. It may not be the same for everyone, but if we choose to find a way that we can make a difference and magnify our light, we will be able to influence many people.
Want to know how to become a lighthouse and shine? Follow these simple action steps to make a daily difference in your life.
Action Steps:
-Each morning when you wake up, decide how you want to feel and act that day. Come up with one emotion word to describe it, such as “happy.”
– Keep a pen and paper by your bed. After you determine your word for the day, write it down along with one thing that you can do to radiate or magnify that emotion in your life and the lives those around you.
– Throughout the day think of your word and notice when you are being a sponge and when you are being a lighthouse. The first step in change is to recognize the problem.
– Before bed take a moment to record what you accomplished and how you felt throughout the day. This is an opportunity for reflection, not self-judgement or criticism.
From Chapter 5 of Soul Intuition by Allison H Larsen.